Mindfulness with Robyn

By Robyn Beckman

Mindfulness Practice for the Current Times

Mindfulness is often thought of as a meditation practice. It may be more accurate to say that meditation is a vehicle for the practice of mindfulness (one of many).  “Mindfulness is when you can be in the middle of something chaotic and shift your awareness so you are able to hold all of it without feeling anxiety……Experiencing your emotions, good and bad – as they happen, can be incredibly calming and empowering.”

I sit here contemplating what I can possibly write for this BLOG that might offer something that hasn’t already been suggested all over the internet to help cope with these COVID-19 Coronavirus times.  I would like to share with you what I have been experiencing, how I am staying present to what is here and how my meditation and mindfulness practices are helping.

Up until about the second week of March, I felt calm, grounded and centered. I wondered if I was under-reacting or if others were over-reacting to the news about Coronavirus; I wasn’t sure.  But, when companies started ordering people home and the # of cases and deaths were on the increase and our Governor implemented the Stay At Home policy – I began to watch more news and engage in more social media.  And, when I started doing that – I noticed anxiety arising in my mind and body and it was escalating and sticking around.

On March 12th, I was laid off my job, my husband’s office was shut down so he began working from home and the weather was cold, wet and gray. I had so much to process, mentally and emotionally. But, haven’t we all?

Now, I had all this time on my hands, crappy weather, trying to learn how to be in my home with my husband being there all the time (who is very routine oriented and I am not), feeling worried about the possibility of ever finding a job in this job market and the thoughts began to spin up stories.  I felt distracted and seriously lacking inertia. Each day brought more closures and our options of movement outside were becoming limited and I began to feel a bit claustrophobic.  I had lost my ground.  When experiencing a sense of groundlessness – all we want is something to hold onto but the news was changing so fast and so was our world.

I had begun to berate myself for not handling things in a healthier manner – after all I am a Meditation Instructor – I should know how to deal with these emotions better! And the list of “shoulds” began to grow.  Can we all make an agreement?  Let’s not “should” on each other, ok?   We are all experiencing so many different emotions and they change constantly and we are all handling this the best we can.

I began to attend daily online guided meditations and teachings with Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn, the founder of the 8-week Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) course, along with people from all over the globe.  In that first meditation practicing with others and sensing into this connectivity and common humanity with so many people around the world – my body and thoughts began to settle.

Each day has brought more of a sense of underlying groundedness and calm.  And, what I realized is that the reason I was not handling things as well as I felt I should have is because NONE OF US ARE! None of us have been through a pandemic before and we are learning as we go and having to adjust with the daily changes in this suddenly new reality we find ourselves in. So, I began to let go of my expectations of how I “should” be doing/being/handling and tune towards paying attention to how things are right now. I check in with myself many times a day to see how my mind is, how my body is, how my heart is and I allow for whatever is here – to just be here and I make room for whatever that is.

So, if I am having a hard time – with getting motivated to begin a task or project, I notice it and then I extend some kindness and compassion for myself because I am able to recognize that I’m having a hard time getting going. And, then I pause and ask myself “what do I need right now?” And, I wait for the answer to come. And, then I respond to that. So, practicing self-compassion is certainly a big help towards extending compassion for others and how they are coping and navigating this pandemic.

My daily meditation practice helps me to stay present and pay attention to things that are helping and things that are harmful and then I get to choose how I will move forward from there.

With that, here are a few things that I have found to help me each day:

  • Shower first thing in the morning and get dressed
  • Meditate every day – even if it is only for 10 minutes (use Apps like Headspace, Calm, Insight Timer)
  • Go outside
  • Move your body
  • Add some structure to your week and days. Have a schedule for the week as well. Make weekends somewhat different, even if that means something simple like making a more elaborate breakfast or something more involved like embarking on a project (i.e., painting a room). This combination of structure and variation keeps people settled but stimulated – both important for emotional well-being.
  • Be aware of who in your circle might be particularly vulnerable during this time and check on them by phone
  • Use principles of mindfulness to shift your mental stance from negative feelings about the situation to an attitude of curiosity. Take on the mindset of an anthropologist or journalist observing a social experiment. Keep a journal (written, drawings or video) of your experience during quarantine – what you are doing and how you are feeling day-by-day. Taking on this viewpoint will give you a little distance, which can reduce distress, as well as keep you open to the positive or simply interesting things that may happen during this very unusual experience
  • Spread Out: Create some space between those you are living with. Otherwise, we run the risk of crowding each other and creating irritation. Normally you’re together some of the time, but separated at other times. Mimic this at home by intentionally planning “together time” (meals, watching movies) and “separate time” in separate rooms, if possible (working, reading, learning).
  • Limit your exposure to news – get the facts and then shut it off
  • Use social media wisely. Before you hop on to a social media site, pause and ask yourself what is your intention here; what are you hoping to give or receive with this engagement? Social media can be your friend when isolated, but resist scrolling through Facebook, Instagram or Twitter endlessly; that won’t really feed your need for connection. Actually, it has been shown in some studies to actually make people feel left out or “less than.” Instead, use social media to meaningfully connect.   Here is a link to John Kraskinski’s “Some Good News” channel on YouTube; it is fun and positive:

Most importantly, pay attention to how you are feeling and give yourself grace, kindness and compassion for whatever is arising in you. There is no need to do otherwise. There is no point in making yourself feel bad or  guilty about anything. This is a time to pause, reflect, contemplate and notice what is here – with your heart, your senses, your mind and your body. And, validate yourself for showing up and hanging in there.

I am offering twice weekly live meditations (Sundays at 11:30 AM and Wednesdays at 6:30 PM). If you don’t have any experience with meditation – you will fit right in! See my website or email me for additional information.

~ Peace,

Robyn Beckman


  1. Helpful and well written article Robyn. I’m experiencing inertia and lack of motivation lately. After all, with quarantine, there’s always tomorrow, right?
    Your solution of: “Ask myself “What do I need to do right now?” and wait for the answer to come” rang true. Go inward and listen to the voice. Sometimes it’s go fix lunch, but often it’s go outside! There is a totally different vibration outside my home. It’s remarkably rejuvenating. Every. Time.


  2. I love this Robyn, and I love that you got right to the point by sharing what you were present to in the beginning and how that’s shifted over the past six weeks. You’ve got a great voice and I feel your spirit coming through the words. Thanks for sharing this!!!!


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